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About the 10 Demandments of Time on a Woman Series
Welcome, sister.
Take a breath… Look at the clock. Now ignore it. We’re about to go to war with time. This book is for every woman who’s ever whispered, screamed, or sobbed: “I don’t have enough time.” It’s for the girl rushing through childhood, the woman juggling roles like a circus act, the elder wondering where the years went.
Time has been sold to you as a limited resource you’re always running out of. But what if time isn’t the enemy? What if the real enemy is the 10 Demandments – the unspoken, rigid, often ridiculous rules about how, when, and why you should spend your life?
This is not a time-management book. This is a time-rebellion book.
We’re going to expose the lies, challenge the expectations, and hand you back your own clock. With snark. With wit. With zero apologies. And with a deep, therapeutic commitment: No Hurt. Only Healing.
We’ll move through a woman’s lifespan – birth to old age – but not as a linear march.
Instead, we’ll examine the 10 Demandments of Time that haunt each stage.
Each chapter names one Demandment, dissects it, rebels against it, and offers Therapeutic Strategic Outcomes – real, actionable ways to dismantle it.
You’ll find:
– Snarky Truth Bombs (because sometimes laughter is the best revolt)
– Anecdotes & Parables (real stories from women you’ll see yourself in)
– Pondering Questions (to stir your inner rebel)
– “What If?” Scenarios (to imagine a world where time serves you, not stresses you)
– Radical Reflections (to connect the dots to self-esteem, confidence, and those soft skills no one taught you)
By the end, you won’t just “manage” time.
You’ll redefine it.
1. The Demandment gets Exposed – Name it, claim it, shame it.
2. Where it shows up – From birth to old age, with real examples.
3. The Snarky Truth Bomb – A wit-filled take-down.
4. The Consequence – How this Demandment erodes self-esteem, creates doubt, and builds a shaky foundation.
5. Pondering Questions – e.g., “What if you ignored this rule? Who would be upset? Why?”
6. Anecdote/Parable – A story that illustrates the Demandment in action.
7. Therapeutic Strategic Outcome – Practical, healing steps to dismantle it.
8. Radical Reflection – Tying it back to core wounds and healing.
You get insight, understanding, room for exploration, exercises and healing strategies, that makes you an active participant, but also someone that can rage, pause and start your rebellion – PLUS a community of fellow rebels to back you up.
This book is for the 14-year-old already feeling behind.
For the 40-year-old wondering if she’s missed her chance.
For the 70-year-old told her time is past.
It’s also for the men who love them, work with them, and need to understand the silent pressure of the clock on the women in their lives.
We’re not fighting time.
We’re fighting the rules about time.
Let’s break them together.
Ready to rebel?
Get the book & Turn the page.
The clock is watching – but you’re about to take its batteries out.
FAQs about the Workbooks
The 10 Demandments Workbooks are a series of 10 standalone healing companions to the main book, 10 Demandments of Time on a Woman. While the main book exposes the lies that shape women’s relationships with time, self, and worth, the workbooks walk you through the healing.
Each workbook (approximately 150 pages) transforms one Demandment into a complete, immersive healing journey – guiding you from awareness to exploration to practical, embodied transformation.
Think of it this way:
– The main book is the manifesto – the awakening, the naming of the lie
– The workbook is the therapy session – the deep work, the healing, the practice
Not necessarily, but it helps.
The workbooks can stand alone. Each one clearly defines the lie, explains its origins, and guides you through healing – even if you’ve never read the main book.
However, reading 10 Demandments of Time on a Woman first will:
– Deepen your understanding of the full landscape of lies
– Help you see how the Demandments interconnect
– Give you the philosophical foundation that the workbook builds upon
Our recommendation: Read the relevant Demandment chapter in the main book, then dive into the workbook for deep healing. Or read the main book straight through for awakening, then return to the workbooks for the wounds that need the most attention.
Great question. Here’s what sets them apart:
Other Self-Help Books: Focus on “fixing” you
The 10 Demandments Workbooks: Focus on healing the lie that was done to you
Other Self-Help Books: = Intellectual understanding only
The 10 Demandments Workbooks: = Embodied, sensory healing (rituals, body scans, tracking)
Other Self-Help Books: One-size-fits-all advice
The 10 Demandments Workbooks: = Your own journey, your own pace, your own rebellion
Other Self-Help Books: Add more to your to-do list
The 10 Demandments Workbooks: Give you practices that actually reduce anxiety
Other Self-Help Books: Assume scarcity is real
The 10 Demandments Workbooks: Expose scarcity as a lie and help you dismantle it
Other Self-Help Books: = Professional, distant tone
The 10 Demandments Workbooks: = Sisterly, direct, snarky, compassionate voice
Other Self-Help Books: = Read once, put on shelf
The 10 Demandments Workbooks: = Interactive, reusable, meant to be written in
The bottom line: These workbooks don’t just tell you what’s wrong. They walk you through what to do about it.
This is the core ethos of the entire series.
“No Hurt” means:
– We will not shame you for your wounds
– We will not add to your guilt or anxiety
– We will not pretend healing is easy or linear
– We will not blame you for the lies you were told
“Only Healing” means:
– Every page is designed for therapeutic outcomes
– Every exercise is practical and actionable
– Every strategy is grounded in real psychology
– Every ritual is meant to create lasting change
It’s a promise: You will not be hurt here. You will only be healed.
Each of the 10 workbooks follows the same 6-section structure, making it easy to move between them:
Section & What it does
A: Welcome & Orientation – Sets the stage, pre-assessment, intentions
B: The Anatomy of the Lie – Shows where the lie came from, why it’s a lie, your origin story
C: The Tools They Use – Identifies 4 mechanisms that enforce the lie (with tracking logs)
D: The Wound It Inflicts – Explores 3-4 psychological impacts (with body mapping)
E: Healing the Wound – Includes Therapeutic strategies, ritual, reframes, rebellion manifesto
F: Integration & Next Steps – Includes Post-assessment, 30-day calendar, resources
This consistent structure means once you’ve used one workbook, you’ll feel immediately at home in any other.
That depends entirely on you.
Pace/Time Frame & Description
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Intensive – A weekend
Deep immersion, powerful breakthroughs
Steady – 2-4 weeks
Working through one section every few days
Gentle – 1-3 months
Allowing space for integration between sections
Seasonal – As needed
Returning to the workbook during difficult seasons
There is no “right” pace. The workbook will wait. Your healing will happen in its own time.
Absolutely not.
This is not a test. There is no grade. You are not being judged.
– Some pages will hit hard – lean into those
– Some pages won’t resonate – skip them
– Some days you’ll write three pages
– Some days you’ll stare at one sentence for twenty minutes
– Some days you’ll need to put the book down and go for a walk
Everything counts. Showing up is the victory. The rest is conversation.
Yes, and we encourage it.
Healing in community is healing that lasts.
Each workbook includes community prompts marked with a symbol – questions and exercises designed to be shared with a trusted companion, therapy group, or book club/community.
Ways to use the workbooks together:
– One-on-one with a friend (weekly check-ins)
– In a book club/community (read a section, discuss the prompts)
– In a healing circle (share your rebellion manifestos)
– Alongside therapy (bring your insights to sessions)
– With a coach (use the workbooks as your curriculum)
No. Start where it hurts most.
The workbooks are designed to stand alone. You can:
– Start with the Demandment that resonates most right now
– Work through them sequentially (1 through 10)
– Return to different books during different life stages
– Buy only the ones you need
A note on order: Demandment 10 (Sieze Your Moment) is the master lie that fuels the others. Some women find it helpful to start there. Others prefer to work through the specific wounds first. Trust your intuition.
Type of Exercise & an Example
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Reflection Questions – “When did I first encounter this lie?”
Tracking Logs – 7-day logs for each tool and impact
Body Mapping – Color where you feel the wound in your body
Letter Writing – To your inner figure, to your future self
Rituals – Sensory ceremonies (e.g., Time Abundance Ceremony)
Cognitive Reframes – Old Thought ? New Thought (21-day tracker)
Creative Expression – Drawing, collage, writing with non-dominant hand
Goal Setting – 30-day healing goals with weekly check-ins
Manifestos – Your personal rebellion declaration
Calendars – 30 days of micro-practices
Every exercise is designed to be practical, actionable, and feel possible – even on hard days.
Gino Norris is a philosopher, poet and therapist whose words serve as thematic anchors throughout the series.
Each workbook integrates 6-8 Gino Norris quotes that speak directly to the Demandment’s core truth. For example, in “Sieze Your Moment” (Workbook 10):
“It is only life that plays – to lose again.”
This quote reminds us that if the game is ultimately “lost” (we all die), then the only thing that matters is how we play – with panic or with presence.
The quotes are woven throughout each workbook, with space for reflection and personal meaning-making.
A ritual is a sensory, symbolic healing practice designed to help your body believe what your mind is learning.
For example, the Time Abundance Ceremony in Workbook 10 uses:
– A bowl of water (time itself – fluid, deep, sustaining)
– A stone (the lie – time as heavy and finite)
– A candle (your attention – what transforms the experience of time)
Do you have to do it? No. But we strongly encourage you to try.
Why? Because you can’t think your way out of a scarcity mindset. The lie lives in your clenched jaw and hurried breath. The truth must be absorbed through your fingers, your eyes, the flicker of light on water.
Skeptical? That’s fine. Try it once. See what happens. Many women report that the ritual alone was worth the price of the book.
The Rebellion Manifesto is a guided declaration of independence from the lie.
At the end of the healing section, you’ll complete a template that includes:
– “I am no longer available for…” (the behaviors you’re releasing)
– “I now claim my right to…” (the freedoms you’re claiming)
– “My non-negotiables are…” (your boundaries going forward)
– A signature and date
This is not a wish. This is a commitment. A vow to yourself. A document you can return to on hard days to remember who you’ve decided to become.
Many women frame their Rebellion Manifesto. Others keep it in their journal. Some share it with their healing circle. However you use it, it becomes an anchor.
By completing the workbooks, you will:
Name the specific lie operating in each area of your life
Trace its origins – where it came from, who benefits, how it took root
Feel and understand the wound – the psychological and spiritual injuries inflicted
Heal through practical strategies, rituals, and daily practices
Integrate new patterns through 30-day calendars and cognitive reframes
Build your personal rebellion manifesto for each Demandment
Experience what it feels like to live free from the lies you were told
The ultimate outcome: A reclaimed relationship with time, self, and sovereignty.
Yes, with a caveat.
The workbooks are grounded in:
– Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) principles (cognitive reframes, tracking logs)
– Somatic therapy approaches (body mapping, sensory rituals)
– Neuroscience (attention bandwidth, default mode network, amygdala hijack)
– Trauma-informed practices (no forcing, no shaming, pacing options)
– Mindfulness-based interventions (present-moment awareness practices)
However: The workbooks are not a replacement for professional mental health treatment. If you’re experiencing severe anxiety, depression, or trauma symptoms, please work with a licensed therapist alongside these books.
Absolutely.
Many women use these workbooks as:
– A supplement to ongoing therapy
– A way to prepare for therapy (identifying the core wounds)
– A tool between sessions to continue the work
– An entry point for those who can’t access therapy yet
What readers say:
> “I’ve been in therapy for years, and I still learned things about myself in this workbook that never came up in sessions. Something about writing it down, tracking it, doing the ritual – it unlocked something.”
> “My therapist recommended this workbook to me. Now we use it together. It’s given our sessions so much structure and depth.”
You might be surprised.
Many women who say “I’m not a workbook person” find that these are different. Why?
– No busywork – Every exercise has a clear therapeutic purpose
– No judgment – There’s no “right” way to fill it in
– Permission to skip – If something doesn’t land, move on
– Snarky voice – Humor and directness cut through the heaviness
– Embodied practices – It’s not all writing; there’s ritual, body work, drawing
Try this: Do the pre-assessment (Section A). If nothing resonates, put the book down. But if even one question makes you pause… you might be more of a workbook person than you think.
This is a common question. Here’s the breakdown:
Purpose
Workbooks : Deep healing & transformation
Reflection Journals: Ongoing practice & maintenance
Length
Workbooks : ~150 pages each
Reflection Journals: ~110 days of prompts each
When to use
Workbooks : After reading the main book
Reflection Journals: After completing the workbook
Depth
Workbooks : Intensive, immersive
Reflection Journals: Gentle, daily
Structure
Workbooks : 6 sections, 40-45 chapters
Reflection Journals: Daily prompts, weekly check-ins
Best for
Workbooks : A season of deep work
Reflection Journals: A lifetime of daily practice
Think of it this way:
– The workbook is the surgery – intensive, transformative, one-time
– The journal is the physical therapy – daily, gentle, ongoing
You don’t need both. Some women do the workbook and feel complete. Others want the daily anchor of the journal. Both are valid.
Demandment 1 – “Thou Shalt Be in a Hurry to Grow Up”
Main Book Chapter: Reclaiming Childhood
Demandment 2 – “Thou Shalt Live by the Calendar”
Main Book Chapter: Unscripted
Demandment 3 – “Thou Shalt Make It Look Easy”
Main Book Chapter: The Effortless Lie
Demandment 4 – “Thou Shalt Give Away Your Hours”
Main Book Chapter: Sovereignty
Demandment 5 – “Thou Shalt Race the Clock”
Main Book Chapter: Beyond the Countdown
Demandment 6 – “Thou Shalt Confuse Doing with Being”
Main Book Chapter: Being Enough
Demandment 7 – “Thou Shalt Apologize for Aging”
Main Book Chapter: Untying Life’s Lines
Demandment 8 – “Thou Shalt Heal on Demand”
Main Book Chapter: Claim Your Healing
Demandment 9 – “Thou Shalt Keep Score”
Main Book Chapter: Uncompared
Demandment 10 – “Thou Shalt Believe Time Is Running Out”
Main Book Chapter: Sieze Your Moment
No, but we recommend it.
Here’s our suggested journey:
Path 1 (Full Immersion):
1. Read the main book straight through (awakening)
2. Identify which Demandment(s) hit hardest
3. Work through the corresponding workbook(s) (healing)
4. Maintain with the Reflection Journal(s) (practice)
Path 2 (Targeted Healing):
1. Read the main book’s Introduction and the Demandment chapter that resonates
2. Dive into the corresponding workbook
3. Return to the main book for other Demandments as needed
Path 3 (Workbook-Only):
1. Start with any workbook
2. The workbook will define the lie and guide you through healing
3. If you want more depth, read the corresponding main book chapter
There is no wrong path.
Yes.
Each Workbook stands alone. It includes:
– A clear definition of the lie
– The historical and cultural origins
– The tools that enforce it
– The wound it inflicts
– Complete healing strategies
You don’t need the main book to understand or benefit from the Workbooks.
However: The main book provides the full landscape – how all 10 Demandments interconnect, the deeper philosophy, and the complete vision of liberation. Many readers find that the main book deepens their Workbook experience.
That is expected – and it’s a sign the work is working.
The Workbooks are designed to help you feel what you’ve been avoiding. That can be uncomfortable. It can be painful. It can bring up tears, rage, grief, or numbness.
Here’s what to do:
1. Stop. Put the book down. You don’t have to finish right now.
2. Breathe. Place your hand on your heart. Take three slow breaths.
3. Ask: “What do I need right now?” (Water? Movement? Tears? A walk? A call with a friend?)
4. Honor that need. Without judgment. Without negotiation.
5. Come back when you’re ready. The workbook will wait.
If emotions feel overwhelming or unmanageable, please reach out to a mental health professional. The Workbook is a companion, not a replacement for clinical care.
Skip it.
There is no requirement to complete every page. Some prompts won’t land. Some exercises will feel wrong for where you are right now. Trust that.
You can also:
– Write “I don’t know” and leave it at that
– Draw instead of write
– Answer out loud instead of on paper
– Come back to it later
– Skip it forever
Your healing, your way.
That happens often.
Many women start with the wound that seems most obvious, only to discover a deeper wound underneath. That’s not failure – that’s wisdom.
You can:
– Set the current Workbook aside and start another
– Work on two Workbooks simultaneously (one for the surface wound, one for the deeper wound)
– Return to the first Workbook after doing deeper work elsewhere
The series is designed for this. Each Workbook stands alone. There’s no penalty for switching.
The complete ecosystem includes:
Resource: Main Book
Purpose: Awakening & awareness
Best For: Reading first, returning for philosophy
Resource: Workbooks
Purpose: Deep healing & transformation
Best For: A season of intensive work
Resource: Reflection Journals
Purpose: Ongoing practice & maintenance
Best For: Daily anchor, long-term integration
Resource: Website
Purpose: Community & resources
Best For: Staying connected, finding support
Resource: Social Media
Purpose: Daily inspiration & reminders
Best For: Micro-practices, community connection
Think of it as a healing ladder:
1. The Main Book wakes you up
2. The Workbooks heal the wounds
3. The Journals keep you free
4. The Community holds you
There is no required order. However, here are some suggested paths:
Path 1: Sequential (1 through 10)
Start at the beginning (childhood wound) and work through to the master lie (time scarcity). This mirrors the developmental journey.
Path 2: Start with the Master Lie (Workbook 10)
Demandment 10 – Sieze Your Moment – is the lie that fuels all the others. Some women find that healing the master lie first makes the other wounds easier to access.
Path 3: Start with Your Biggest Wound
Which Demandment made you gasp when you read it? Which one brought tears? That’s where to start.
Path 4: Chronological by Life Stage
– Workbook 1 (Childhood) for early wounds
– Workbook 7 (Aging) for later-life wounds
– The others as needed
Trust your intuition.You know where it hurts most.
Stay tuned.
The 10 Demandments Workbook Series is complete at 10 books. However, future companion resources may include:
– Guided audio meditations for each ritual
– Facilitator guides for book clubs and healing circles
– Online courses for each Demandment
– Explore the Other Books in the growing 10 Demandment Family
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If you’re asking that question, the answer is almost certainly yes.
You wouldn’t be here if you didn’t feel, somewhere deep down, that something is wrong with your relationship with time, with worth, with yourself. You wouldn’t be reading this if you hadn’t felt the weight of “not enough” – not enough time, not enough done, not enough you.
The workbooks are for the woman who:
– Is tired of running
– Is ready to rest
– Wants to stop measuring her worth by her output
– Suspects there’s another way to live
– Is willing to get uncomfortable to get free
That woman is you.
And you deserve to heal.
FOR THERAPISTS, COACHES & PRACTITIONERS
Yes, and we’d be honored.
The workbooks are designed to be:
– Trauma-informed (no forcing, pacing options, permission to skip)
– Clinically grounded (CBT, somatic, mindfulness-based)
– Client-led (the client works at their own pace)
Ways to use them in practice:
– Assign relevant sections between sessions
– Use the tracking logs as clinical data
– Explore the body maps and rituals in session
– Have clients read their Rebellion Manifesto aloud
– Use the community prompts for group therapy
Please note: The workbooks are not a replacement for clinical training. Use your professional judgment.
Yes.
Many coaches use the workbooks as:
– Client homework between sessions
– Structured curriculum for group coaching programs
– Retreat materials for healing intensives
– Intake tools to identify core wounds
Stay tuned
They are in the works and please do check back. Thanks
ABOUT THE REFLECTION JOURNALS
The same promise that guides the entire series.
“No Hurt” means:
– We will not shame you for your wounds
– We will not add to your guilt or anxiety
– We will not pretend healing is easy or linear
– We will not give you more homework when you are already exhausted
“Only Healing” means:
– Every story is designed to make you feel seen
– Every prompt is an invitation, not a requirement
– Every blank page is permission to rest
– Every quote is a small anchor for your soul
It is a promise: You will not be hurt here. You will only be held.
No.
“Demandments” is a play on “Commandments” – naming the cultural rules we have been taught to obey. The journals are therapeutic, philosophical, and sisterly. They draw on psychology, somatic practices, and mindfulness – not religious doctrine.
Women of all faiths (and none) have found them helpful.
Each of the 10 Reflection Journals follows the same tender, spacious structure. Once you’ve used one, you will feel immediately at home in any other.
Structure:
Section & What it offers
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A Letter Before You Begin – Warm, personal, permission-giving. No instructions. Just a hand on your shoulder.
8 Sister Stories – Full-page parables. Each one titled “For when you feel alone in this…”
Part One: The Weight You’ve Been Carrying – Quotes + gentle prompts about the core lie
Part Two: The Phantom / The Wound – Deep introspection about what was lost, hoped for, grieved
Part Three: The Body Knows – Where does this Demandment live in your body?
Part Four: The Comparisons / The Isolation – How this Demandment separates you from others
Part Five: The Detours That Were Actually the Path – Gentle reframing. Looking for hidden gold.
Part Six: What I Am Not Willing to Carry Anymore – Soft declarations. A letting go.
Part Seven: A Different Metaphor – A new image for your relationship with time
A Permission Slip – Tear-out-able (or keep-able) page of radical permission
Quiet Pages – 10–15 blank pages with only a small, gentle icon
Deep Integration Questions – 20 questions across three doorways (see Q11)
A Final Word – A tender closing. A reminder you are not alone.
No tables. No tracking logs. No “7-day” anything. Just spaciousness.
There is no completion. There is only inhabiting.
You can:
– Read it in one sitting – an afternoon, a Sunday morning, a quiet evening
– Sit with it slowly – one sister story per day, letting each one land
– Return to it seasonally – when the old panic rises, open to any page
– Use only the blank pages – ignore the prompts entirely and just breathe
There is no right pace. There is no wrong way. The journal does not care if you “finish” it. It cares only that you show up – and even then, it will wait.
Absolutely not.
You can:
– Read the sister stories and skip the prompts entirely
– Speak your answers out loud instead of writing
– Draw, doodle, or collage on the blank pages
– Leave every page empty except the permission slip
– Use the journal as a bedside book – something to hold when you can’t sleep
The journal is an invitation, not a test. You are not being graded. There is no “right” way to use it.
That said: many women who say “I’m not a journaling person” find themselves writing in these pages. Something about the gentleness, the lack of pressure, the sisterly voice – it loosens something. Try it. Or don’t. Either way, the journal will meet you there.
Yes, and we encourage it.
Healing in community is healing that lasts.
Each journal includes Deep Integration Questions (see Q11) that are perfect for sharing – though the journal itself is designed for private, tender reflection.
Ways to use the journals together:
– One-on-one with a friend – read a sister story, share what it brought up for you
– In a book club/community – discuss the prompts, read the permission slips aloud to each other
– In a healing circle – pass the journal around, each woman reading a story that moved her
– Alongside therapy – bring your insights (or your confusion) to your sessions
– With the Workbook – use the Workbook for deep work and the journal for rest between sessions
The Sister Stories are the heartbeat of each journal.
They are full-page parables- short, emotionally resonant stories of women who have felt the same wounds you feel. Each story is titled “For when you feel alone in this…” and is designed to do one thing: make you feel seen.
An example from Demandment 10 (Time Is Running Out):
> “The Sunday Night Funeral” – the story of a woman who spent every Sunday evening conducting a small, private funeral for the weekend she felt she’d wasted. Until her daughter asked: “Mom, why do you always look so sad on Sundays?”
These are not “success stories.” They are not inspirational lessons. They are companions – women who say, without preaching: “I feel that too. You are not alone.”
There are 8 Sister Stories in every Reflection Journal, spaced between the reflective sections like quiet rests in a piece of music.
At the end of each journal, you will find 20 questions organized into three doorways. These are where the shift meets the ground.
Doorway One: Her New Message to Herself & the World (Identity)
Questions that help you install a new operating system.
> Example: “If you stopped saying ‘I don’t have time’ and started saying ‘That is not my priority right now,’ how would your relationship with yourself change?”
Doorway Two: How She Would Guide Another Sister (Wisdom)
Questions that help you externalize the compassion you struggle to give yourself.
> Example: “If your dearest sister told you she felt ‘behind’ in life, what would you say to her that you cannot yet say to yourself?”
Doorway Three: What She Will Do For Herself From Now On (Sovereignty)
Questions that anchor insight into small, tangible action.
> Example: “What is one small, specific moment this week where you will deliberately choose to move slowly?”
You don’t have to answer them all. You don’t have to answer them perfectly. But if you sit with them – one at a time, like stones in your palm – they will show you what you already know.
Gino Norris is a philosopher, poet, and therapist whose words serve as thematic anchors throughout the series.
Each Reflection Journal integrates 5 selected Gino Norris quotes that speak directly to the Demandment’s core truth. For Demandment 10 (Thou Shalt Believe Time Is Running Out), you will find quotes like:
> “Slow your hurry.”
> “Tick to your time.”
> “In forests there is no hurry.”
Each quote is paired with a gentle, therapeutic explanation – tailored to the topic of time, hurry, and presence. These are not decorative. They are small anchors you can carry with you: on sticky notes, on your mirror, in your pocket.
The Permission Slip is a tear-out-able (or keep-able) pageof radical permission.
It looks something like this:
> You have permission to stop running.
> You have permission to rest without guilt.
> You have permission to be exactly where you are.
> You have permission to believe, even for a moment, that there is enough.
You can:
– Tear it out and put it on your mirror
– Keep it in your wallet
– Read it aloud on hard mornings
– Give it to a sister who needs it
This is not a “positive affirmation.” It is a declaration of sovereignty – a reminder that permission was never theirs to give. It was always yours.
At the end of every Reflection Journal, you will find 10–15 blank pages with only a small, gentle icon at the bottom (a river stone, a tree trunk).
These pages are for:
– Words that don’t have a prompt
– Doodles, drawings, or collages
– Nothing at all – just the sight of empty space
– Breathing
You do not have to fill them. Their presence is the point. In a world that tells you to optimize every moment, empty pages are a rebellion.
Not “results.” Not “productivity.” Not “five steps to never feel anxious again.”
Something deeper.
– A ceasefire with the clock – not because time stops, but because you stop treating it as an enemy
– Permission to rest without guilt – real, unapologetic, “I am not a machine” rest
– A new relationship with milestones – birthdays, Sundays, New Year’s – from panic to presence
– The ability to recognize scarcity language – and the quiet knowing that it is not yours
– Somatic awareness – where the panic lives in your body, and how to soften it
– A sisterhood of stories – proof that you are not alone in feeling behind
– A gentle reframe – from “I’m running out of time” to “I am unfolding”
– Quiet – spaciousness – room to breathe in a world that tells you to hurry
The ultimate outcome is not the absence of anxiety. It is sovereignty – the quiet, unshakeable knowing that you are the author of your own relationship with time.
That depends on what you need.
The Workbook is deep, intensive healing. It is the surgery. The Reflection Journal is the quiet recovery room – a place to rest, to integrate, to remember who you are after the work is done.
Some women finish the Workbook and feel complete. Others want a gentle, ongoing companion – something to return to on hard days, on Sunday nights, on birthdays.
Think of it this way:
– The Workbook is for a season of focused healing
– The Journal is for a lifetime of returning home
You don’t need both. But many women find they want both.
You might be surprised.
Many women who say “I’m not a journaling person” find these journals different. Why?
– No pressure – there’s no “right” way to use them
– Sister stories first – you can read only the stories and put the book down
– Permission to skip – if a prompt doesn’t land, move on
– Blank pages – you can draw, doodle, or write nothing at all
– A permissive ‘You-centered’ approach
Try this: Read the first Sister Story. If nothing resonates, put the book down. But if something in that story makes you pause – makes you feel seen – you might be more of a journal person than you think.
The complete ecosystem includes:
Resource: Main Book
Purpose: Awakening & awareness
Best For: Reading first, returning for philosophy
Resource: Workbooks
Purpose: Deep healing & transformation
Best For: A season of intensive work
Resource: Reflection Journals
Purpose: Rest, integration & ongoing presence
Best For: Quiet afternoons, Sunday mornings, hard days
Resource: Website & Community
Purpose: Connection & resources
Best For: Staying in the conversation
Think of it as a healing ladder:
1. The Main Book wakes you up
2. The Workbooks heal the wounds
3. The Reflection Journals hold you as you rest
4. The Community walks with you
There is no required order. However, here are some suggested paths:
Path 1: Sequential (1 through 10)
Start at the beginning (childhood wound) and work through to the master lie (time scarcity). This mirrors the developmental journey.
Path 2: Start with the Master Lie (Journal 10)
Demandment 10 – Thou Shalt Believe Time Is Running Out – is the lie that fuels all the others. Some women find that sitting with this journal first makes the other wounds easier to access.
Path 3: Start with Your Biggest Wound
Which Demandment made you gasp when you read it in the main book? Which one brought tears? That’s where to start.
Path 4: Use the Journal That Matches Your Workbook
If you are working through Workbook 3 (The Effortless Lie), use Reflection Journal 3 alongside it – one for the deep work, one for rest.
Trust your intuition. You know where it hurts most. Start there.
Yes.
Each journal stands alone. It names the lie, shares sister stories, offers gentle prompts, and includes integration questions – even if you’ve never read the main book or touched a Workbook.
However, the journals are richest when used in conversation with the other resources. The main book gives you the language for what you’ve lived. The Workbook gives you the toolsto heal it. The journal gives you a place to rest in between.
Think of them as three instruments in the same song. Each can be played alone. Together, they make music.
Yes.
Each Reflection Journal is available as:
– Print book – for those who want to hold it, write in it, tear out the permission slip
– PDF/eBook – for those who prefer digital, or who want immediate access
The digital version includes the same content, formatted for screen reading. The blank pages are still there – you can use a separate notebook, or simply sit with the emptiness.
That is expected – and it is a sign the journal is working.
The journals are designed to help you feel what you have been avoiding. That can be uncomfortable. It can bring up tears, rage, grief, or numbness.
Here is what to do:
1. Stop. Put the journal down. You do not have to finish right now.
2. Breathe. Place your hand on your heart. Take three slow breaths.
3. Ask: “What do I need right now?” (Water? Movement? Tears? A walk? A call with a friend?)
4. Honor that need. Without judgment. Without negotiation.
5. Come back when you are ready. The journal will wait.
If emotions feel overwhelming or unmanageable, please reach out to a mental health professional. The Reflection Journal is a companion – not a replacement for clinical care.
That depends on what you need right now.
If you need…- Then buy…
Deep, structured healing – The Workbook
Tracking logs, body maps, rituals – The Workbook
A 30-day calendar of practices – The Workbook
To do the work – The Workbook
A quiet place to rest – The Reflection Journal
Sister stories that make you feel seen – The Reflection Journal
Permission to stop performing – The Reflection Journal
Blank pages and spaciousness – The Reflection Journal
To be – not to do – The Reflection Journal
You do not need both. Many women choose one based on where they are in their journey.
That said: Women who buy both often use them together – the workbook for morning deep work, the journal for evening rest. Or the workbook for a season of intensity, then the journal for ongoing maintenance.
There is no wrong choice.
Yes.
Some women find the journal less intimidating than the workbook. They start there – reading the sister stories, sitting with the gentle prompts, letting the blank pages hold them. Then, when they feel ready for deeper work, they move to the workbook.
Others do the reverse – deep healing in the workbook first, then rest and integration in the journal.
Trust your intuition. You know what you need.
Skip it.
There is no requirement to complete every page. Some prompts won’t land. Some will feel wrong for where you are right now. Trust that.
You can also:
– Write “I don’t know” and leave it at that
– Draw instead of write
– Answer out loud instead of on paper
– Come back to it later
– Skip it forever
Your healing, your way.
That happens often.
Many women start with the wound that seems most obvious, only to discover a deeper wound underneath. That is not failure – that is wisdom.
You can:
– Set the current Journal aside and start another
– Work on two Journals simultaneously (one for the surface wound, one for the deeper wound)
– Return to the first Journal after doing deeper work elsewhere
The series is designed for this. Each Journal stands alone. There is no penalty for switching.
If you are asking that question, the answer is almost certainly yes.
You would not be here if you did not feel, somewhere deep down, that something is wrong with your relationship with time, with worth, with yourself. You would not be reading this if you had not felt the weight of “not enough” – not enough time, not enough done, not enough you.
The Reflection Journals are for the woman who:
– Is tired of running
– Is too exhausted for “homework”
– Needs permission to rest – real, unapologetic rest
– Wants to stop measuring her worth by her output
– Suspects there is another way to live
– Just needs a quiet place to sit and breathe
That woman is you.
And you deserve to rest.
